1. Stop Obsessing + Do You
There are so many practices which lend themselves to intention-setting; practising gratitude, setting goals and intentions, releasing and letting go, vision boards, positive mantras, journalling, reflecting, refocusing, staying present. And there’s absolutely no rule book by what order you should do them in, no guide as to which ones are more effective than others and no right or wrong way to do them.
I spent years obsessing over whether or not I was ‘doing them right’, for long enough, had the right tools etc etc – until I one day realised that there is no right or wrong way to all of this. Your energy is your intention, do it your way, in a way that resonates with you – and that will truly be the most effective.
Start by picking one thing that speaks the loudest to you. Maybe you’ve been itching to start journalling or have a pull towards creating something visual. Whatever stands out, start with that.
2. Buddy Up
A couple of years ago, some friends and I decided that we wanted to practise the art of gratitude a little bit deeper than just our own self-practise, so we started a WhatsApp group to share 3 things we’re feeling grateful for, on a daily basis. Sometimes big things, sometimes small, sometimes we forget and go a whole week before one of us picks up the baton again, but mostly I’m grateful for having space where I can inject a little more gratitude into my days and weeks.
When we put ourselves in a state of gratitude for everything we currently have, we open the door to more of the good stuff. Finding gratitude in the big stuff and the small on a daily basis puts you firmly in a receiving state.
3. Surrender + Trust The Process
When it comes to intentions, desires and wishes – it’s great to have them. It helps to focus what we do on a daily basis and gives us a sense of purposeful direction. However, it’s also important to remember that sometimes… actually often – things don’t always work out as we plan them to. Curveballs fly in, forks in the road divide our decisions and unexpected surprises gift us new excitement.
One thing we often get caught up in is the ‘shoulda, woulda, coulda’s’ or sitting on our hands and waiting for perfect conditions – and neither of these ever help. The art of surrendering isn’t something that happens overnight of course, but reassuring yourself regularly to ‘trust the process’ is a helpful mantra to tell yourself whenever you need to hear it. Say it out loud or write it down – and the more you say it… the more you’ll reprogram your thoughts towards a more positive present state.